Regarding this question specifically:
What we need to ask ourselves is "What problem is this post solving?". Is the problem "I do not know the entire list of all popular twists and complications on gender-bending characters"? If so, that is not a problem within Writers.SE's mandate; we don't aggregate trivia on demand.
If the problem is "I am not sure I am hitting sufficiently on the try/fail cycle", which the OP also mentions, that's another matter. But then, I don't see how the beat list helps OP - as @what observes, try/fail cycles don't all have to come from the "masquerading as a man" aspect. So if try/fail cycles are OP's difficulty, then this question is suffering from the XY problem. And then we might just reach the conclusion that OP is simply asking what to write.
Either way, my opinion is that the question can be closed. I'd be happy to work with OP from the actual problem (apparently, try/fail cycles), to a workable question, possibly re-opening.